If everyone laid their cards on the table right this second Im sure we would all have some horrible thing or patch that everyone, once they knew about it, would never forgive said person for but sometimes only some peoples cards get laid on the table and everyone just plays with them and judges them and reads them and wears down the corners whilst their own deck lays safely in their pocket.

non-stop complaining fuels your sense of victimization.

we can’t ignore that there is a high correlation between people who have experienced abuse and people who are abusive.

Using deceitful, lying, toxic behaviors to avoid having to accept responsibility and consequences seems to be your strong point.

Constantly striving for validation and self-esteem by obsessing about achieving outward measures of success!

This stress will have a lasting, negative impact on my brain.

You wallow in your problems and fail to focus on solutions.
I don’t want to join your pity party so that you can feel better about yourself, that doesn’t make me callous or rude, my sympathetic ear got sucked into your negative emotional spiral for too long.

You’re not the victim! You have the power to exert influence on the direction of your life, you’re the only one!

Your inability to manage your emotions is toxic to everyone around you.

Hurting and manipulating your loved one’s emotionally is a very effective way of controlling them. But we are autonomous creatures and do not fit well into boxes designed to keep the light from our eyes.
You use a fear of loss, extreme jealousy, anger, and a basic distrust as your crutches, but your legs aren’t even broken!.

You aren’t being brutally honest. You are being deliberately hurtful and not considerate of others’ feelings.

Learning how to be honest and kind is important.
Sometimes feelings are just feelings, and they should be questioned. They may not match up with the reality of what’s going on around us, and we should be looking deeper.

You use your passive aggressive maneuvers to express your anger in a hidden way, rather than being upfront like when you agreed to do something only to sabotage the project.

If you could only stop whining, and refuse to see yourself as a hapless victim of fate, chance or discrimination, then you’ll find that you are more powerful than you realized, but only if you choose to accept that reality.